You Should Stop Shoulding


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The internet is full of advice about anything you can think of. From dieting and fitness tips to beauty tips to parenting tips…the list goes on and on. The amount of information is staggering. Along side the very annoying trend of headlines claiming all of the things we don’t know or don’t do is the barrage of the word “should.”

There is nothing wrong with advice – that is if you’re asking for it. Advice helps you to learn things you didn’t know, to get new information you didn’t have before. If you’re looking for it, advice from people who have been where you were before can be incredibly helpful.

When you’re not asking for it, advice can be irritating at best and destructive at worst. Too much information can lead to confusion and a sense of failure if the advice doesn’t work out for you.

Even more destructive is should. Should implies obligation. Should points to a correct way of doing something. Should is critical of alternative paths.

I’m about to give you the only “should” I will ever give you – You should stop “shoulding”.  There is no universal right way or wrong way to do anything. There is only a right way and a wrong way for you.

If you hate chia seeds, don’t eat them. You’re not going to miss out on anything if you don’t. If you don’t follow beauty advice – rejoice! You can find better things for you to do with your time. There is no should and I want you to ignore that word whenever you find. Strike it from your dictionary.

If you want to find out what you would like to do, I have several articles to help you find out. And there are several more out there on the internet, out there in life, that don’t involve any shoulds.

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So stop shoulding.

Or don’t.

It’s up to you.

But remember that it’s important to enjoy this life and worrying about every bit of advice out there, wondering if you’re doing things the right or the wrong way can only lead to added stress.

Make your own path. Discover things for yourself. Live life the way you want to live, not how someone else thinks you should.


“The best color in the world is the one that looks good on you.” – Coco Chanel


Have you had trouble with the word “should” before? What reaction do you have when you hear or see that word? Share in the comments below.


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