What to Do When You Have to Start Again
It happened. I let life get away from me. I started putting things on the back burner – important things. I lost my focus and wandered aimlessly around.
I put on some of the weight I tried so hard to lose. I lost some of the strength I built up over months. I stopped posting articles for well over a month. I sort of lost my way.
Sometimes, things just happen that way. Sometimes life throws something huge at you and you find yourself carried away by the enormity of it all. Sometimes life doesn’t do a darn thing and for some reason you just hit a wall or lose your momentum.
It’s hard to come back from that. Not only do you have to find the motivation to get up and start again, but you have to literally start again. You have to start climbing that same bit of mountain you already climbed.
But this is where the hero becomes a hero.
If adventuring were easy, then a hero would just be a normal everyday person. The hero wouldn’t stand out from the crowd at all. What makes a hero a hero is overcoming the hard times. It is the hardest part of the journey that makes a journey worth it.
It took me a while to realize that. I felt a bit like giving up because I had gone so far only to start sliding down the mountain again. But it wasn’t until this weekend that someone reminded me that it is all part of the adventure – climbing as well as falling.
So, how can we make starting again fun? Part of the spirit of My Adventure Playground is finding the fun in life, so what’s fun about having to do the same thing over again?
It’s all in the mentality. Remember, you aren’t starting over. You are starting again. Starting over means that you didn’t gain anything last time around. But that isn’t true. Even if you put weight back on, even if you lost some muscle, even if your bank account is empty, you didn’t lose everything. You still have experience. And that experience is going to make things different for you and possibly even easier for you the second time around.
You could give up altogether. You could sit down and decide you’re never doing that again. You can get unhealthy again, renew your addictions to food and TV and let life get away from you. But that’s not what a hero does. A hero tries again, no matter how disappointing it is. And when you do get back to your goals, you’ll feel all the more amazing for having the courage to start again.
- Try a different route – If you climbed up the mountain and slid back down, then maybe that was the wrong path for you. Try something else. Experiment and see what does work and start climbing again. Maybe this time, you’ll find a path that gets you to the top. Doing something different can help keep things interesting even if the goals are the same.
- Create a new goal – Sometimes you’re on the wrong mountain all together. Maybe your original goal was to lose weight, but you’re not feeling it. Maybe you can change your goal to being able to do a flip, or being able to lift a certain amount of weight. By shifting your goal and your focus, you might find that your original goal happens as a result of the new one.
- Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed – After my trip to Camp Nerd Fitness, I found my focus again. I talked to – and still talk to – people who wanted to help me. I decided immediately to start writing articles again. My energy was renewed to get back to being fit and healthy and doing things that I love. By surrounding myself with these people, I find it hard to sit there and wish that I could succeed.
- Go back to where you were and try again – You don’t have to choose a different path. If you liked where you were and you just got lost, find out where you are on the road to your goal and go from there. You don’t need to start over from scratch. Just start where you can, regain focus and try again.
Remember that life is an adventure and an adventure must include challenge. If you give up, then you’ll never make it to your goals. Sometimes it takes one step back to go two steps forward. But if you want to be the hero, then you have to face your challenges, get back on that mountain and start climbing again.
“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.” – Helen Keller
Have you had to start again on your goals? If so, what’s your story? Tell it in the comments below.